Levine.) Even if you ultimately decide you can’t stay in the relationship, you might be able to remain a close, supportive friend. (She also highly recommends the book “Stronger After Stroke: Your Roadmap to Recovery” by Peter G. There’s a lot of pain for both the stroke survivor and the caretaker.īut three months out is too early to judge the extent of your fiancée’s possible recovery. She said that you two being together for a little over a year was pretty light for something this heavy, and she understood that it’s particularly hard for a young person.
When I talked to her about your story, she had no words of condemnation for you. The reconciliation failed, she says, in part because she didn’t want someone who was there, as he was, out of pity. At the time her marriage was on the rocks, but her husband came home to help. She learned to walk again and while she’ll never be a concert pianist, that arm now works. The doctor told me she would probably never be able to use her left arm. When my younger sister was 30 she suffered a massive stroke that left her unable to use the left side of her body. It’s also possible that a year from now she will be in a remarkably different place. What you’re facing will be grueling, and it could be that your fiancée will remain severely disabled.
Tell him that while you’re closing off this particular discussion, it says something great about your family that when something was troubling him, he felt he could talk directly to his parent, and you hope that’s always the case. Then say all three of you can agree that this is as far as the conversation is going to go, because the rest of it is private. Tell him it’s understandable that he drew the conclusion he did, but fortunately you can reassure him that your marriage is in great shape. Sit your son down and say you’re sorry such a private message was left on the home computer. So now the two of you have to deliver this explicitly and together. While your husband didn’t handle it well, his essential message is sound: This is none of your son’s business. It’s both impressive and sweet that your son had the guts and the chivalry to confront his father on your behalf. You don’t want your mother to pick yours up to order pizza for the kids and discover what date night really means at your household. What do we do?įirst of all, make sure to keep your cellphone out of sight while you’re dropping the kids off at your parents’ house. I’ve been trying to come up with a believable lie or half-truth that could be told. I can’t imagine that coming clean to him in any detail about our private lives would be healthy. He’s confronted my husband, who was flabbergasted and said little apart from unconvincing denials and sputtering about privacy.
We’ve been careful and discreet but little while ago, one of us forgot to sign out of the account we use to contact this couple, and my son found a sexually explicit email from the other woman that he assumed was directed only to my husband and concluded his father was cheating on me. We currently meet with a couple once or twice per month when we go to a hotel and leave our children at my parents’ home. We’ve had sex with two other couples over the past several years, and find it a fun way to be both intimate and adventurous together. We have a teenage son and a younger daughter, and for the past five years, my husband and I have explored swinging. My husband and I are in our mid-40s and have been married for 20 years.